Tuesday, February 28, 2012
Book Report Series: The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz
I first read 'The Mastery of Love' by Don Miguel Ruiz about 7 years ago, and it didn't have nearly the same effect as it did this time; maybe I'm growing more accessible with age. His words soothe me in a way only rivaled by being wrapped in my favorite blanket in front of a fire with a mug of chai tea. He writes in a pragmatic yet whimsical tone, which works so nicely as he offers practical advice on creating a custom, livable dream. Using lovely spells of storytelling to bring his message to life, Ruiz shows the reader how to heal emotional wounds, recover freedom and joy, and restore a sense of playful teamwork that is vital to loving relationships.
Now, according to Ruiz, before we can start improving our relationships with others, we have to learn to heal our own emotional wounds by hunting truth vigilently, cultivating self-love, and most importantly, by granting forgiveness to ourselves and any others who helped make those wounds possible. Ultimately, we must care enough to look honestly at ourselves and accept everything, just as it is. Once we deeply love ourselves, warts and all, then the foundation is ready and everything can change.
Ruiz paints a simple, wonderful idea of an amorous partnership: being both playmates and teamplayers; sharing a romance full of generosity, freedom, and unconditional love; each half owning responsibility for his or her share and never dependent on the other for validation or happiness. In his own words, "You are there to serve your love to your lover, to be each other's servant. In every kiss, in every touch, you are there to please the one you love, without expecting anything back." No expectations? Sounds like no disappointments either! Give this book a shot if the dream you're currently living isn't as sweet as it should be.